Zen Mommy Minute: The Words We Use

Here are some thoughts about the words we use and ideas on how words can help or hurt us in our parenting. Whether you are pregnant with your first or raising teens, we can all benefit from watching for a few important words like should, try, need and MY/MINE and the messages they convey.

Let me know if you’ve ever thought about what the words we use say and how they play a role in parenting. BLESSINGS all and see you next week!

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Suzanne Tucker, aka Zen Mommy

In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003 and expecting twins in Jan of 2010, Suzanne co-owns a holistic health center with her husband Shawn in St. Louis, Missouri where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Educator of  Infant Massage and health education teacher. Certified in a number of healing and life education approaches, Suzanne offers ongoing tips on parenting and is the co-creator of the Yogi Parenting approach to positive parenting


  1. I love the tip. I have been eliminating “should” since I read “You Can Heal Your Live.” The suggestion really resonated with me. I’m going to employ the other ones too, thanks!

  2. I’ve definitely been more conscious of it since hangin with the ZM and Michaela Turner, our resident Yogi Parenting expert.

    Jeni, I’ve been listening to Louise Hay audio for the last few days! Love that book too. 🙂

  3. Death to Should! I gave a training earlier in the year and ranted about the use of the word Should.

    In response, Steven Perchikov wrote up a classic post on his blog here:
    (warning – illicit language used).

    As a modal operator (indication of the mode of operation you want to express) should is rarely worthwhile. More often than not if I want to imply the necessity to do something to my son or anyone else I just use imperatives in my tone with a strong downward command. “Do it.” Or I upgrade should into NEED. As in, you need to do this now.

    Go Zen Mommy. Every word counts.