Zen Mommy Minute: Skinned Knees Rock

It is important to allow our children to fail. To fall down. To be disappointed. Sound harsh? Believe it or not, it actually helps our kids build self-esteem and self confidence when we refrain from “saving” them from life.

It also helps our children grow when they see us modeling acceptance in the midst of our own “not-perfect” moments. Example: You arrive 10 minutes late to school pick up and as they climb in the car you say, “I’m sorry I’m late for pickup today guys! How was your day?” with a smile instead of modeling GUILT with something like “I am soooooooo soooooorry I’m late. I feel so bad. I thought I could get another errand done in time. That was so stupid of me. Man. I hate when I do that…” or something to that effect.

When we swoop in and fix things for our kids before they get to experience the consequences of their own less than perfect moments (forgotten lunches, unsigned permission slips, messy rooms with laundry that needs to be thrown down or risk missing laundry day, etc) we are actually doing our kids a disservice, keeping them from a potential lesson in self love and what it takes to “be with” imperfection and disappointments.

What do you do when your child leaves his or her lunch/homework/gym shorts at home??!?!!

Do you remember being a kid and learning from life when it gave you a skinned knee or two?

I’d love to hear about how this topic of skinned knees (and their many blessings) lives for you.



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Suzanne Tucker
In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003 and twins born in February of 2010, Suzanne co-owns a holistic health center with her husband Shawn in St. Louis, Missouri  where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Infant Massage Instructor and health education teacher. Certified in a number of healing and life education approaches, Suzanne teaches small groups and works 1:1 with families wanting to know more about positive parenting.


  1. How hard I worked to have children to hold never thinking about how much more difficult it would be to learn to let go!

  2. isn’t that the truth?!?!?!?!?! beautifully put diane.

  3. So hard to let go, but so neccessary. Falling is how they learn.

  4. So loved that book! You’ll love it too!

  5. What a great message!

  6. I had an experience with this last week. My 6yo left his BABW bag of goodies at a restaurant. He had made all these really cool paper airplanes and was selling them to our neighbors. He had his entire stock and $2 in there.

    But he didn’t realize he had left it until the next morning. We didn’t go back.

  7. One good quote I try to remember is this one, “A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary. “-Dorothy C. Fisher