Zen Mommy Minute: Sibling Rivalries

Idea for the week: If your kids are fighting, bickering or battling it out and coming to you to pick sides, see if you can stay out of getting in the middle. Instead, give this a shot:

Take a deep breath, get centered and get out of the MIDDLE. You might even need to get out of the room. See if instead of picking sides, you can invite them to work it out. Simply say, “Work it out guys!” as you make your departure, staying close enough to monitor things from afar. (We don’t want anyone to lose an eye after all!@#!)

I’d say 4 times outta 5 I’m happily surprised at the outcome as they actually DO work it out. Granted, it’s not usually how I would have worked it out had I stepped in… but so much the better, as they came to a solution on their own. And afterwards, they are free to be friends with each other instead of collectively mad at ME (who usually doesn’t give either of them what they wanted when and if I do step in.)

If we can step aside as parents and invite our kids, especially our tweens, to work sibling spats out, we allow our children to build both their problem solving skills AND their friendship with one another. I hope this idea works well for you and your family.

If you are going through sibling rivalries in your home or you have another idea on how to manage WWIII when it does occur between the kiddos, lets us know in the comment section below. Thanks and have a great week!!!

Suzanne Tucker, aka Zen Mommy
In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003, Suzanne owns a holistic health center in St. Louis, Missouri where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Infant Massage Instructor and health education teacher. Certified in a number of healing and life education approaches, Suzanne offers life coaching as Zen Mommy Coach and is the co-creator of the Yogi Parenting approach to positive parenting.