Week 33: Blessingways and Birth

img_0467 (2)When Ria (aka Practical Mommy) offered to throw me a Baby Shower, as a to be third and fourth time mom expecting twins, I realized how special this was. Most moms get one go at the whole baby shower thing. I was lucky. I was getting a second go at it… and I wanted it to be special.

More than gifts and yummy food, (which i ain’t knocking ’cause they were great!) I wanted a day surrounded by the mothers and sisters in my life to celebrate the life (x2) I carry inside me. I wanted a day to dream with these amazing women about the day our babies will make their way into this world and into my arms. This is exactly what I got.

My Baby Shower included a Blessingway which, if this is a new term for you, could also be described as a blessing ceremony for the mom to be. It is a spiritual tradition originating with the Navajo people that I first learned of from my Prenatal Yoga instructor. She had wisely introduced it to my entire prenatal yoga class full of mostly first-time moms to be as an idea we could pass on to our friends and family planning baby showers. And happily for me, pass it on I did.

At this, my second ever Baby Shower (just 10 years after the first) Ria and my friends gave me a day to remember. I felt celebrated as a woman and as a mother. I was moved to tears more than once as my girls led me through a beautiful ritual, gifting me with a special birthing bead (short video from the shower) they had picked. As each woman gifted me their bead, they explained in great detail WHY that bead and why they had picked it for me. They blessed, hugged and kissed me. They blessed my babies and their upcoming births.

From my Doula and friend Kate came the gift of a green tourmaline (verdelite) in the shape of a heart. She spelt out the properties of this special stone which she picked for me with great intention … gratitude, promotes patience, helps to open the heart chakra, dispels fears and transforms negative energy into positive. Is that a stone for birth or what?

My mom gave me the sweetest pink and blue peas in a pod you ever did see along with a number of other hand blown glass beads of pink and blue made with love by her friend, a local artist. From my girlfriend Emma came a trinket with huge sentimental value; one I am not sure HOW she parted with. The charm had been gifted to her after the birth of her own child by a girl friend and Emma invited me to do the same – paying it forward after the birth of our twins to another woman preparing for birth.

From my friend Beckah, a delicate sea shell with all the tenderness and beauty nature holds wrapped within its curves, all for me to draw from come the moment of our babies’ births. From Michelle a bead as unique as a moment in time, filled with two flowers to represent the two precious souls I hold inside me. From Ria, a dolphin which represents the essence of the sacred breath… joy and the present moment (not to mention that it’s my favorite animal on the planet.) The list of my meaningful beads goes on. From my sister Trish, an “A” and a “B” bead… as this is what we called the babies following the lead of our ultrasound technician before we knew their genders… Baby A (girl) and Baby B (boy). From Kim a gorgeous turquoise bead which protects the bearer and offers warmth, bliss and peace… etched with precious care and love. Each bead bringing a blessing, each full of intention.

I told the women at my shower how I planned to meditate on the gift each bead held as the babies and I worked together during labor to bring them into the world. It was some weeks later when upon my doorstep I found my Birthing Bracelets, presented in a little box with a card. Emma had whisked the beads away after the shower, promising to turn them into a finished product; a work of art as only she could do! And would you look at these beautiful bracelets? Now you know why they mean so much to me. I am saving them to wear when my contractions at last begin.

Sweet baby girl and baby boy, you can make your way into this world when you are ready. Many good people await your arrival and wish you well. You are loved. We are loved. You are supported. We are supported.

I have the bracelets to prove it. *wink*

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Suzanne Tucker, aka Zen Mommy

In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003 and expecting twins in Jan of 2010, Suzanne co-owns a holistic health center with her husband Shawn in St. Louis, Missouri where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Educator of  Infant Massage and health education teacher. Certified in a number of healing and life education approaches, Suzanne is a Co-creator of My Mommy Manual and the online parenting course, Yogi Parenting, a positive parenting approach for raising kids of all ages.


  1. Suzanne, it was an honor to be part of your special day. I am so grateful to have you in my life and to have experienced this magical shower vicariously through you. I hope that every expecting mom has such a gift!