On Pruning and Peace


This weekend I tended to some rose bushes. I’ve had them potted for years and believe me when I tell you, they’ve seen better days.  I noticed on Friday how worn they looked with bunches of parched, half-dead flowers hanging all over them. Two rainless weeks combined with my not watering them. Not a great combination.

My rose bushes sit on either side of our back porch and until recently have been a beauty to behold. As my two year old’s ran around, collecting rocks from our driveway and plopping them, one by one into their baby pool, I grabbed my sheers and went at it…

the business of cutting away at something in order to help it live.

The metaphor hit me as far too obvious but I felt it working on me just the same. As I snipped away at dead buds and crinkled leaves, my heart began pulling for me to consider something. A question. [Read more…]

Zen Mommy Minute: Duality

Zen Mommy Minute question of the week: Do you want a good, dutiful, well-behaved, grateful, respectful child? This video might have you think twice about this as a parenting “goal”… or at least I hope it will.

Duality. What are we teaching our children when the end goal of our parenting approach is to have a “good” child? Does it lead to excessive rigidity? Does it help our children learn to accept and manage the many emotions they feel? And finally, does it help our children come to know and love themselves? Please send me your thoughts. To read more on this, check out one of my favorite parenting reads, Alice Miller’s “For Your Own Good”. [Read more…]

How to See through the Looking Glass

After a week at a Zen retreat, I’m still not sure what “zen” means. However, I can share a bit of my experience on the other side of the rabbit hole — as Daniel Silberberg describes in his book (from which I read in this video for Looking Glass Lane). When I STOPPED and LOOKED DEEPLY (as is the Zen way), I experienced the illusion of my life. I realized that everything… yes, everything is not as it seems!

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Zen Mommy Minute: Your Parenting Purpose

What is your parenting purpose? Many of us have vision or objective statements for our resumes. Some of us have one for our lives, a powerful thing to do to be sure. Check out this digital version of a life purpose by my twitter friend @MorganDayCecil. (LOVE IT!!!)

So why not have a special purpose statement to guide us in our parenting? [Read more…]

Zen Mommy Minute: Happy and Free

Sometimes in yoga, at the end of class we sit with our eyes closed and chant a prayer for all the world…”May all beings everywhere be happy and free.”

Just thinking (as I watch this clip of the kids on our recent trip to St. Simons Island, Georgia) that this is how we might all look… [Read more…]

How To Be Who You Are

morgan-iiiI am reminded today that I was never so much who I am as I was when I was a child. [Read more…]

Zen Mommy Minute: Judgment

Feeling judged? Judgmental?!?…or like you’re never enough? Play along with me in this little “exercise” on judgment. ;p It’ll be fun (and painless)…I promise! And by the end, I hope you could care less what other people think about you.

This video was inspired by the book  BAD MOTHER by Ayelet Waldman (a must if you are a mom and judgment of any kind is on your radar). I hope it speaks to you!!!