Not Perfect Parenting

not perfect parenting

Give your family the gift of YOU. 

Imperfect, wonderful, awesome-sauce YOU.

Because when we do this.

When we let go of perfect…

Everything is possible.

xo

ps: Have you ever felt yourself letting go of “perfect” in one way or another and felt the DEEPER CONNECTION possible with your family/mama friends on the other side of perfect as a result? Tell your story in the comments below.

When we tune in and trust, everything is possible. I hope you walk with me and other moms here because mom-hood is BETTER when we’re holding hands. Let’s connect on twitterfacebook and pinterest as well, because the manual is ours to write but we don’t have to write it alone!

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I needed to be reminded by my own message today. Tune in. Trust.

Thank you spirit for this reminder that came in the form of a conversation with my friend Katharine — a loving mama (to a very lucky little five-months-old boy) who is navigating the sometimes crazy road of mothering an infant, seeking balance as she lives with sleepless nights  and the many questions we moms face as first time (heck, as ANYtime) moms. “Am I doing it right? What does my baby need? Am I a good mom?!?”…

My friend is a warrior because she is taking the spiritual path of motherhood ON. It’s not always an easy path, but what it lacks in ease it makes up for in soft baby kisses and looks of love that could charm the devil himself.

Here is what I am remembering today.

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Ok…where’s the manual??? How many of us have felt that way when we are first sent out of the hospital with our little bundle of joy held snuggly in our arms? It would be nice though. Just turn to page 3 on crying and you will see exactly what you need to do. Not sleeping? Please turn to page 12.


Well, this may be hard to believe, but our children do come with a manual. And we actually get a different one with each child, each manual as as unique as they are. And like all manuals, just because we are given the manual doesn’t mean we immediately have all the knowledge inside memorized just by holding it. No, we will actually have to READ the manual if it’s going to help us. Or in the case of the manual that comes with each child, we need to LISTEN to it. You see, this manual is called our intuition.

The hard thing about intuition and parenting is that so often, as new moms, we are clear about one thing…we know nothing!!! I know it feels that way. But I am here to tell you, and hear me loud and clear, “Yes you do!!!” If it feels like you were absent the day this thing called “a mother’s intuition” was handed out, relax. It might just be that you are standing there holding it in your hands, wishing you knew what it said inside, frustrated that you don’t. Hey, I got an idea. Let’s OPEN IT UP and let that information in!

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Zen Mommy Minute: Beautiful Boundaries

No, I do not have a twin. I just wanted to show you one of my favorite pieces of art which we happen to have hung by a rather large mirror. What I wanted to show you is how this piece of art reminds me of my “boundaries”.

Boundaries (in art and in life) are a beautiful thing. They give structure and form when they are present and can be sorely missed when they are not. Listen to this short video for more on the topic of parenting and boundaries.

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Zen Mommy Minute: Skinned Knees Rock

It is important to allow our children to fail. To fall down. To be disappointed. Sound harsh? Believe it or not, it actually helps our kids build self-esteem and self confidence when we refrain from “saving” them from life.

It also helps our children grow when they see us modeling acceptance in the midst of our own “not-perfect” moments. Example: You arrive 10 minutes late to school pick up and as they climb in the car you say, “I’m sorry I’m late for pickup today guys! How was your day?” with a smile instead of modeling GUILT with something like “I am soooooooo soooooorry I’m late. I feel so bad. I thought I could get another errand done in time. That was so stupid of me. Man. I hate when I do that…” or something to that effect.

When we swoop in and fix things for our kids before they get to experience the consequences of their own less than perfect moments (forgotten lunches, unsigned permission slips, messy rooms with laundry that needs to be thrown down or risk missing laundry day, etc) we are actually doing our kids a disservice, keeping them from a potential lesson in self love and what it takes to “be with” imperfection and disappointments.

What do you do when your child leaves his or her lunch/homework/gym shorts at home??!?!!

Do you remember being a kid and learning from life when it gave you a skinned knee or two?

I’d love to hear about how this topic of skinned knees (and their many blessings) lives for you.

 

xo

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27 Weeks: Passing Out at Work

I didn’t pass out but I almost did! Three times today! I started feeling really lightheaded in the car this morning at 2:30, then it got worse when I got to my desk.

I took off my panty hose because I thought that was the problem…By the way I was laughed at when a girl at work heard I still wear panty hose. Not because I am pregnant but because they are “sooooo out.” Whatever, I wear the black tights under black pants only.

Anyway, that didn’t work, then I unbuttoned my pants…I thought I was cutting off the blood circulation. Nope. Still about to fall over. I managed to get through the show but it was rough.  So at 7 I ran over to my mom to be mentor Afton (KMOV web producer) to ask what the deal was.

DEHYDRATION.

She said she ended up in the hospital because of it when she was pregnant with her first child.  It’s now 10:15, I’ve had three bottles of water and I feel better but still not quite right.

I just read pregnant women are supposed to drink at least 8 ounces of water an hour! Holy Pee Breaks Batman! Seriously???

I will drink more but I’m still wearing panty hose with my black pants! I hate that flash of flesh that breaks up the black flow from the pants to the heels.  Know what I mean?

Here’s Afton and my video blog about the mini crisis this morning.

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Positive Parenting Tip: Tune in!

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A great tip for both kids AND parents! Listen to this :15 AUDIO TIP:

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Positive Parenting Tip: Silly

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Michaela is a 30-year veteran educator and a Certified YogaKids® Teacher and Trainer. In addition to Yogi Parenting, she teaches yoga baby and yoga kids classes for children throughout St. Louis, Missouri.

How to Get Zen with Your Kids

I’ve been doing yoga myself off and on for the last 10 years and for me, it’s always been a great way to exercise not just my physical body but my mental “muscles” as well. It teaches me how to calm myself in stressful situations and how to use breathing to relax and regain control of my emotions — great skills that I want my kids to develop too. So we started with the Yoga Kids DVD when my son was 3 years old.

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Positive Parenting Tip: Affection

positive_Parenting_tipOur Yogi Parenting audio tips are presented every Friday by Michaela Turner, BS Ed, CYKT, YKT, Co-creator of the Yogi Parenting course.


Listen to this :15 AUDIO TIP:

If you are ready for parenting to be easier, more fun and less stressful, sign up for a free Yogi Parenting lesson.

Michaela is a 30-year veteran educator and a Certified YogaKids® Teacher and Trainer. In addition to Yogi Parenting, she teaches yoga baby and yoga kids classes for children throughout St. Louis, Missouri.

Yoga Parenting Course Featured on Great Day St. Louis

Last Friday, Zen Mommy and Carol Daniels talked about the Yoga Parenting course. Suzanne shared tips with viewers on using some of the tools included in the 8-week online course: the signs, the time machine, and the bunny breath.

One of the things that I love about these tools as they aren’t just “gimicks.” They work — with kids of all ages, not just toddlers and preschoolers but also teens and grown children (even spouses)! *wink*

There’s a reason that they work and it’s all rooted in the brain and how we are wired as humans. The Signs work because as Suzanne explains to Carol, it disengages us from the power struggle. It also activates a different part of your child’s brain: the one that has to visually read the sign.

Bunny Breath works because it oxygenates the brain. When stressed, we operate from the brain stem, the most primitive part of the brain. When we breathe, we move up to the neocortex, where higher level thinking and learning occurs.

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