Going to good couples counseling is something like repairing an injury. We’ve hurt each other with our words over time and have learned ways to limp along in our relationship, not quite as strong as it once was. So going to marriage therapy for me is like digging in a wound, trying to line it up straight and strengthening what has been there all along. This is work, people. I’m not sitting on the sidelines anymore crying about my emotional boo-boos. I’m in rehab.
A part of our regular practice these days is to talk more (so obvious, right?). I don’t just mean talking about the family schedule or finances, but the things that have injured our relationship. The hard stuff. And because we can’t spend $200 an hour on all of our little stuff, it’s gotta start with us. So our wonderful therapists, gave us this common Couples Dialogue to structure our conversations (or at least get us started).
I know, the name even sounds mamby-pamby, but if a couple can agree to the process then I tell you, this helps to reset the injury so that you can be strong again. [Read more…]