Just Keep Swimming

This post is for all the mamas and papas out there of littles, whether of twins or not, that feel like they are “in the trenches”. I feel ‘ya. Those first few weeks, months (years???). Man.

When my B/G twins, youngest of four, stepped on the bus and left for Kindergarten this Wednesday, I sat in my quiet house for a good 30 minutes and looked back at the journey the last five years has been. What came to me was how TRUE this popular (and maybe even a bit cliche) saying is: “the days are LONG but the years are short.”

I also thought, “How the hell did I DO that???!?!?”

h and c first day K 2015 watermark

Lol. No really. Cause what my husband and I did and what you all have done/are doing — it’s the stuff of legends. Parenting our little people – it’s important, hard, a privilege and completely awesome. Not that parenting little people over five is a walk in the park everyday either… but it’s just – easier.

Anyhow, I thought it’d be a timely moment to share about the things that GET US THROUGH. Mine (especially those first two years of life with four and the youngest two being perpetually nursing twins) was this: I would sing a ‘lil Dori from Nemo to myself — “just keep swimming, swimming, swimming…”

Feeling… reflective and blessed today. Thanks for listening. And hey, if you’re parenting kids of ANY age, but most especially babies, toddlers and preschoolers, and you find yourself in need of some encouragement, watch this:

What say you? What gets YOU through??? And if your kiddos are old enough, how’s back to school month 2015/16 going in your world? Comment below.

ps: the pictures above are my littles — first day of life, at 6 months old and then this past Wednesday on their first day of Kindergarten. (Plus here’s a picture of all our kids so I don’t feel guilty. Yep. Mom guilt. Ugh!!!)

tucker kids oct 2014


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Suzanne Tucker, CEIM, Parent Educator:

In over two decades as a physical therapist and parent educator Suzanne has help thousands connect on a deeper level to themselves and their families, teaching Infant Massage and Positive Parenting to organizations and individuals all over the world. Creator of My Mommy Manual, a website/community inspiring parents to “look inside (yourself) for instructions”, author and co-founder of Brentwood Center of Health, a holistic rehabilitation center, Suzanne lives in Saint Louis, Missouri with her husband, their four children, and far too many pets to mention.

On How I Manipulate My Kids and Wonder Woman

ma-nip-u-late [muh-nip-yuh-leyt]

verb (used with object)

1.  to manage or influence skillfully.

2. to adapt or change to suit one’s purpose or advantage.


I manipulate my kids, especially my youngest two.

Why do I do this evil thing? Most likely it’s because, like the definition says, it suits my purpose.

I get it sounds selfish, but truly, when I consciously attempt to manipulate my kids, it’s out of love. The unconscious manipulations? That’s a different post entirely. When I act from a conscious place though, I do it to suit my needs and theirs. An adaptation or change to suit our mutual purpose and advantage. Too theoretical? Let me give you an example.

Here’s a manipulation I pull on my youngest kiddos every day about 12:15 pm. It’s how I get my two year old twins to walk themselves up our steps to their room at nap time. [Read more…]

How to BE Inspiring!

This is Practical Mommy and I’m going to take a moment here to gush about Zen Mommy… who I’m quite certain is a pretty shade of *pink* right now!

Why? Because as much as I tell her how inspiring she is, NOW I have some validation from an objective third party! If you haven’t been tuning in to the lively discussion about her article, How to Recognize Warning Signs, you may have missed the amazingly cool response she’s been getting, especially from Bob Wan-Qi Kim (a.k.a. @journik). Check out this video he did ABOUT her!!! And not only is journik NOT her best girlfriend… he used to be a monk, so I’d posture that he knows a thing or two about “zen-ness!”

So feel free to add your thoughts to the conversation! What warning signs have you ignored?

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How to Receive Love

loveme“love me, love because I’m different… a true one of a kind! with tons of wear and tear and maybe a few flaws. embrace me for what I am, make me your favorite! when in need i will comfort you guaranteed!”

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How to Be a Hero

heroWhat makes a person a hero in your book? Do they need to leap from tall buildings in a single bound? Or maybe a hero for you is someone that stops a hit-and-run “runner” from getting away or saves a baby from a burning building. If you read the papers, you will surely find the word hero sprinkled in heavy doses when you read a story about something such as this…and maybe they are. Depends on your definition of hero I guess. [Read more…]

How to Find Your Muse

Yesterday I got an inspiring message on a tub of sour cream!

It was just for me. For right then, in the moment (just like Zen Mommy said). It inspired me to write about kindness (you’ll see that shortly.)

Calliope is the muse of epic poetry. A muse is the personification of inspiration, that which guides one in the creative process. Calliope was said to inspired Homer to write the Odyssey. But not all of us are destined to write epic poetry! I’m not expecting lightning to strike.

The muse I am interested in is more of the every day variety. What is it that inspires you, every day? Or, in the course of one day? It can be a little thing. Something or someone or an idea that takes your breath? Or makes your heart race a bit faster than normal? For me, today, it was the sound of my son laughing uncontrollably.

Who is your muse? Where do you find her?

Practical Mommy is Ria Sharon. Click the links for Practical Mommy’s recommendations for travel car seats, affordable and fun diaper bags (skip hop bag), and the best-selling crib brand, Da Vinci Crib.