There Are No Words

What does this say to you?

For me it is the wordless definition of connection. A sweet, sweet moment (I’d go so far as to say a sacred moment) of acceptance, love and peace.

This blissful state is the same space I see babes of all ages (especially newborns) moving into when they receive massage from their moms and dads. Babes, basking in the love held in a simple, shared present  moment. Love held in stillness and in touch.

Giving and receiving. Being. Connection.



When we follow our bliss, tune in and trust, anything and everything is possible. I hope you walk with me and other moms here because everything is BETTER when we are holding hands. Let’s share on twitterfacebook and pinterest too because the manual is ours to write but we don’t have to write it alone!!!

Smallest Teachers

I taught baby massage, like I do every Friday, but today, as I loaded up my things in my car, I realized I was leaving class feeling — what’s the word? — lighter.

By lighter I mean something about class today has me walking just a little bit slower, smiling just a little bit wider, thankful just a little bit more.

Why? I’ve been thinking about this for the last two hours, and the only answer I have for you is this:

small teacher

Starring into these eyes. Lying my hand on this ones head as he starred back at me. Breathing. Sharing stillness. Holding and soothing a sweet, little baby girl, just weeks old that came to class, crying from tummy pains/gas minutes into her massage.

These babies.

The peace of the present moment I am pulled into when I am with them. They are to blame, I’m quite certain of it.

Today, if you have little people lying, rolling, crawling or walking around you in the house, take a moment. Stare into their eyes. Breathe. Hold their gaze just a little longer than you normally would. Share a moment, still… together, no matter their age (even if you risk being called weird by your tween/teen.)

I promise you, you will walk away transformed. And likely, they will too.


When we follow our bliss, anything is possible. I hope you walk with me and other moms here because motherhood (and life) is better when we’re holding hands.

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Month Two: Tummy Time

I remember tweeting with a dad of twins and he told me “the first three weeks are the honeymoon period. Enjoy them!” And he was right! Baby girl and baby boy are now much more awake than when we first brought them home. Just when you’re getting used to the routine… eat, sleep, wake, diaper change, eat, sleep, wake… (you get the picture) things have changed. The GOOD NEWS is this gives us plenty of time to play. Here are some ideas to keep you and your nearly two month old baby active during their increasing alert time:

  • Tummy time. Get out the camera ’cause you never know if your ttle one will ROLL for the first time like my baby girl did here!

  • Massage time
  • Bath time
  • Go outside and smell the fresh air / take a walk
  • Play music, sing and dance. No one is watching… I promise 😉

Send me your newborn play ideas. I’d love some tips as baby boy and baby girl are awake and ready to play more and more each day!

How to Help a Gassy/Colicy Baby

A picture says a thousand words. (I wish I had a shot of how “productive” this massage was for little Evan…but you probably don’t want to see that picture!) I am fond of saying “every baby is a gassy baby”… but if you are dealing with colic, I want you to know there IS something you can do to help.

Studies show Infant Massage leads to a 50% decrease crying with just 10-15 minutes a day. And if your baby has colic, it helps by comforting and soothing them, helping their digestion and to cope with stress.

I think there is no worse feeling than hopelessness…and if someone told me there was “nothing” I could do…that is exactly how I would feel – hopeless.

If you are dealing with colic…keep hope. If your baby had or has colic, what are some of the things besides massage that you have found help??? Visit our Infant Massage page for more massage tips and to sign up to receive a free tummy massage handout that helps with colic.




By Suzanne Tucker, co-creator of My Mommy Join her and other moms on this journey called motherhood, because life’s better when we hold hands.

In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003 and twins born in 2010, Suzanne owns a holistic health center with her husband where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Infant Massage Instructor and health education teacher. Certified in a number of healing and life education approaches, Suzanne offers one-on-one parent coaching support to families all over the world. For a free consult, email her at tuckersuzanne @ sbcglobal (dot) net.

How to Share Stillness

I am sooo lucky! I got to watch Zen Mommy in action last week, teaching her infant massage class. For those of you who don’t know this already, ZM is magical! I was able to capture at least a dozen golden nuggets of wisdom like this one… so get ready… because we’ll be sharing them all… as soon as I can figure out this video thing! :)

The lesson of stillness was profound for me. I was sitting there, behind the viewfinder of my archaic camcorder and thinking, I can do this with my kids! I can do this for myself! Take a moment of stillness, anytime. When my daughter was agitated over the weekend, I went back to that moment and put my hand on her forehead.

Magical! Thank you, Zen Mommy!

How to Connect to Your Baby…and Yourself

“How was your weekend?” “Fine. Thanks for asking. How about yours?” Pretty standard, right? I’ve said it. That’s just what people say on Monday. But today if you’d asked me this question over a cup of coffee, my answer would have been different. Not longer really, just different. How was it then you ask? In a word, it was “connected”.

It was one of those rare treats of a weekend. Dinner with my husband, drinks with a couple we hadn’t seen in years, a family BBQ in the backyard, complete with roasting marsh mellows (in the fire pit we bought 3 years ago that has seen about as much action as my bread maker…not much…), a “clothes swap” with 15 girl friends where we all picked through each other’s unwanted items over gooey butter cake, each leaving with an armful of free “new” clothes… and to top it off, a beautiful Sunday morning walk with my 5 year old daughter and our puppy Trixie. Sometimes “fine” just doesn’t cover it.

Sure, the laundry is insane, a tall pile of bills still sits here by my computer begging for attention and my dog isn’t quite there when it comes to being house broken (as I just discovered on the dining room rug). No, I did not fall off planet Earth into Bliss-ville. I’m still here, two feet planet firmly on the ground. But this past weekend and the sense of connection it left me with, spending time with friends, family…and myself, makes the other things feel just a little bit easier to accept today.

And so it is with our babies. How’s that for transition? You knew I was going to bring this back full circle to parenting didn’t you? But I cannot help but think that this is exactly how our babies feel when we give them our full attention. It is the thing I like best of all the many benefits infant massage…CONNECTION.

Connect Through Massage

Speaking as a mother that once tried to breastfeed and change her babies diaper at the same time, I know the need for support in slowing down to just be with our babies. Simply creating special time for massage with your little one does this. It will leave you and your baby feeling, in a word, “connected”.

If we are moving fast, sometimes we can forget how connected we really are in this life. As parents, our children help make this “A-PARENT” for us. It’s part of their job description. They help us slow down and remember. This week, I invite you to connect with your children in a very simple way through massage. I hope you enjoy this short little photo film I created to help inspire you to make massage a ritual in your family. Just click on the title that follows“KNOW LOVE MASSAGE”.

So crank up the computer volume and get ready to feel that awesome feeling that we all want…for our children and for ourselves…connection. I’d love to hear from you if you already use massage with your children and what you and your children have gotten out of it. I hope you have a good week and that it’s better than fine!




Suzanne, aka Zen Mommy
In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003, Suzanne owns a holistic health center in St. Louis, Missouri where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Infant Massage Instructor and health education teacher. Certified in a number of healing and life education approaches, Suzanne offers life coaching as Zen Mommy Coach.



How to Massage Your Baby

… and change the world!

How would you like a massage every day of your life, given to you by someone you love and trust more than anyone else in the world? Would it make you a better person…a healthier and happier individual? Yes, in fact, it would, according to not only me (a big fan of massage) but a wide range of researchers. Alas, for most people, including yours truly…this is no more than a fantasy. A good fantasy, mind you…daily massage…someone I love…goodbye stress…hello healthy me…aughhh…reality check…hello?…who has the time?…the money? But if I were a baby…now there’s an idea worth exploring. [Read more…]