Only a man would try balancing the checkbook at 8:20 on a Saturday when our son has a 9:00 soccer game. Who does that? Who thinks the checking account has priority when there are shoes to put on, uniforms to dig out of laundry baskets and orders to be shouted at children who don’t function on Saturdays without them.
Mental Health Breaks for Short-Attention-Span People
Life is a long-term self improvement project. Sometimes we just need a little break to help us feel better fast. Here are some ideas.
1. Take a Real Lunch Break
On the second School Snow Day this winter, I hit a rut. Trying to work from home with high energy kids was driving me nuts. Around lunch time, my friend Alyssa and her kids stopped over on their walk around the block. We scrounged up lunch together. [Read more…]
Yesterday I got an inspiring message on a tub of sour cream!
It was just for me. For right then, in the moment (just like Zen Mommy said). It inspired me to write about kindness (you’ll see that shortly.)
Calliope is the muse of epic poetry. A muse is the personification of inspiration, that which guides one in the creative process. Calliope was said to inspired Homer to write the Odyssey. But not all of us are destined to write epic poetry! I’m not expecting lightning to strike.
The muse I am interested in is more of the every day variety. What is it that inspires you, every day? Or, in the course of one day? It can be a little thing. Something or someone or an idea that takes your breath? Or makes your heart race a bit faster than normal? For me, today, it was the sound of my son laughing uncontrollably.
Who is your muse? Where do you find her?
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My word of the year in 2008 was “present”…a worthy word of the year for just about anyone on the planet, but especially so if you are a parent to young children. As a word of the year, it served me well; mostly showing me how oh so NOT present I am.
It seems the pull towards busy-ness is especially strong in the parenting years of life, but maybe that’s just because that is where I find myself. We want so much to give our all to our children, yet at the same time to have a little piece of ourselves B.C. (before children) left over for ourselves. The truth is, it’s not an either or thing. We don’t really have to choose to give it all away OR to save some for ourselves. That is the really great thing about love; it begets itself. [Read more…]
As much as we’d like to wrap happiness up and give it as a gift to our kids this holiday season, alas, we cannot. Happiness comes from within. It can only come from within. No amount of telling our children they “should” be happy for this or that can actually make it so. So how can we raise our children to be happy if we cannot give them happiness? (This is starting to sound like a Zen riddle!) Well, there’s hope…and it is not complicated. Research shows we can give our children happiness in the way we parent and in the way we live our lives.
One of my all time favorite books on the subject details this out very plainly, giving real world examples and strategies that help kids tap into their own internal wellspring of happiness. The book is The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness by Edward M. Hallowell.
In it, Dr. Hallowell examines the research on how kids learn to create and sustain lifelong joy…regardless of the circumstances of their lives. Profound. He offers a simple explanation and five easy steps parents can take.
If you are like me you are thinking, “What ARE the 5 steps??! Give me the formula!” Well, the book is worth a full read, but here they are in a nutshell:
Through his personal experiences and as a child psychiatrist, Dr. Hallowell reminds us of the significance of CONNECTEDNESS (my favorite theme of all time), playfulness, optimism, and joy in our daily lives. One major take away is to avoid over scheduling your child’s life. They need lots of time to just BE, to play and create and imagine…you know…like you and I got to do when we were kids? Not dance, soccer, gymnastics, music and karate classes…just your child/ren and chunks of time with nothing to do but be a kid. This book really helped me off the hook of feeling I somehow needed to entertain my kids24/7 if I was to be a “good mom”.
Now the words “Mom, I’m bored” are music to my ears. It means I’m doing my job and my kids are being given ample down time to just be; to practice figuring out how to create their own happiness. And they do. Minutes after “I’m bored” our girls move head on into some of the most creative and magical games you could ever imagine…making fairy clothes out of leaves…dressing the cat to look like a rock star…the list goes on.
This enlightening book is thought provoking and a must read for anyone hoping to inspire happiness in the lives of children. I am encouraged to know that as parents, we can make a profound difference in our children’s abilities to create and sustain happiness no matter what challenges life may bring their way. I hope you will read this book and that it brings joy and ease…to your children and to your parenting.
In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003, Suzanne owns a holistic health center in St. Louis, Missouri where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Infant Massage Instructor and health education teacher. She is also the co-creator of the Yoga Parenting course.