A 6 year old girl gives her mom a “wake-up” call.

Wow. This is an amazing conversation. Watch this little peacemaker’s heart-felt plea for love and her mother’s equally loving response.

“Mom… are you ready to be his friend? Try not to be that high up to be friends. I want everything to be low. Just try your best. I don’t what you and my dad to be mean again. I not trying to be mean… but…”

Our little people have big thoughts to share when we stop and listen. This mom stopped. This mom listened.
 

 
Love this little girl’s insights, the power with with she shares them, and the openness with which her mother receives them.

 

What wise words have your children shared with you over the years?

xo

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Suzanne Tucker, CEIM, Parent Educator:

In over two decades as a physical therapist and parent educator Suzanne has help thousands connect on a deeper level to themselves and their families, teaching Infant Massage and Positive Parenting to organizations and individuals all over the world. Creator of My Mommy Manual, a website/community inspiring parents to “look inside (yourself) for instructions”, author and co-founder of Brentwood Center of Health, a holistic rehabilitation center, Suzanne lives in Saint Louis, Missouri with her husband, their four children, and far too many pets to mention.

 

How to Laugh

May this 59 second clip inspire you to lighten up… and GIGGLE your head off today. Laughter, it’s not only contagious, it’s good for the soul.

How to Raise Your Child to be HAPPY

Childhood Roots of Adult HappinessAs much as we’d like to wrap happiness up and give it as a gift to our kids this holiday season, alas, we cannot. Happiness comes from within. It can only come from within. No amount of telling our children they “should” be happy for this or that can actually make it so. So how can we raise our children to be happy if we cannot give them happiness? (This is starting to sound like a Zen riddle!) Well, there’s hope…and it is not complicated. Research shows we can give our children happiness in the way we parent and in the way we live our lives.

One of my all time favorite books on the subject details this out very plainly, giving real world examples and strategies that help kids tap into their own internal wellspring of happiness. The book is The Childhood Roots of Adult Happiness by Edward M. Hallowell.

In it, Dr. Hallowell examines the research on how kids learn to create and sustain lifelong joy…regardless of the circumstances of their lives. Profound. He offers a simple explanation and five easy steps parents can take.

If you are like me you are thinking, “What ARE the 5 steps??! Give me the formula!” Well, the book is worth a full read, but here they are in a nutshell:

1. Connection

2. Play

3. Practice

4. Mastery

5. Recognition

Through his personal experiences and as a child psychiatrist, Dr. Hallowell reminds us of the significance of CONNECTEDNESS (my favorite theme of all time), playfulness, optimism, and joy in our daily lives. One major take away is to avoid over scheduling your child’s life. They need lots of time to just BE, to play and create and imagine…you know…like you and I got to do when we were kids? Not dance, soccer, gymnastics, music and karate classes…just your child/ren and chunks of time with nothing to do but be a kid. This book really helped me off the hook of feeling I somehow needed to entertain my kids24/7 if I was to be a “good mom”.

Now the words “Mom, I’m bored” are music to my ears. It means I’m doing my job and my kids are being given ample down time to just be; to practice figuring out how to create their own happiness. And they do. Minutes after “I’m bored” our girls move head on into some of the most creative and magical games you could ever imagine…making fairy clothes out of leaves…dressing the cat to look like a rock star…the list goes on.

This enlightening book is thought provoking and a must read for anyone hoping to inspire happiness in the lives of children. I am encouraged to know that as parents, we can make a profound difference in our children’s abilities to create and sustain happiness no matter what challenges life may bring their way. I hope you will read this book and that it brings joy and ease…to your children and to your parenting.

I’d love to hear about your favorite parenting reads and what you got from them!!!

Suzanne, aka Zen Mommy
In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003, Suzanne owns a holistic health center in St. Louis, Missouri where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Infant Massage Instructor and health education teacher. She is also the co-creator of the Yoga Parenting course.