The idea of their son volunteering and pitching in with chores may cause some parents to weep for joy, but getting your son to contribute to the household should not be a horrible chore in itself. In fact, chores can really help boost your son’s confidence, fulfill their need to be needed, and teach them to respect their own, as well as other people’s, time and effort.
One key to get everyone to help (as happily as possible) is how you present the idea of chores. If you, as parents, complain and grumble, your son will follow suit with this same attitude. Instead, try and maintain an upbeat attitude and use music or games to make chores as enjoyable as possible. It’s also a good idea to start at a young age. Let your son follow you around while you do chores – maybe even let him fold/play with a towel while you do laundry, and it would be a fun time for him to imitate and interact with you. Seeing you do chores will also instill in him the understanding that chores are not impositions, but necessary in maintaining a comfortable home.
Getting started: Nobody likes to be taken for granted, so if your family decides to assign chores make sure there is a reward. Rewards can be anything from a praise to allowances and chore charts*, this has to be determined by what works for your family and how old your son is. [Read more…]