How to Parent Soul to Soul

We all want the best for our kids. The best foods, toys, sitters, teachers, friends… but are we giving them the best “us” there is? It dawns on me that in this moment, as I multi-task with my kids (sorting the mail and writing to you as they do their homework) I am not. In giving them my divided attention I’m clearly not parenting from my “soul” place; more like my “just-a-minute” place.

***3:55 pm — PAUSE WRITING***

***8:55pm — RESUME WRITING***

I’m so glad I’m writing about this to you today. :) It’s not that I was being a “bad” parent… just a not very present one. They didn’t notice… But I could feel it. And this is the sort of thing I’d like to be ever more aware of. Am I parenting soul to soul? I certainly hope so. Do I parent from a place less than this? (on a daily basis?) You bet ‘ja.

Amidst the diaper changing, soccer games, grocery shopping and laundry sorting, each of us experience opportunities to share our TRUE selves with our families (or not). A story from our past. A feeling. Our hopes. Our dreams. Our fears. Let’s not wait until life slows down or for when our kids are a little older to do this very important thing.

Children (even babies) understand way more than we give them credit for. On a soul level, while we are trying to remember, they are trying not to forget.

Our guest is Annie Burnside, author of Soul to Soul Parenting: A Guide to Raising a Spiritually Conscious Family (I know, right?!? Great name.) Listen as she walks us through four ways to connect with our kids, no matter their age:

  • Unborn: Take moments to connect in silence and/or stillness during your pregnancy with your unborn child. You are sharing the same blood after all — how much more connected can two souls be?
  • Newborn: Whisper sweet nothings into their ears: listen to the very sweet way Annie welcomed her children into this world.
  • Tot: Look beyond the terrible two’s and share sweet stories together, planting the seeds of forgiveness, empathy, worthiness, self-love and more.
  • Young Child to Tween/Teen years: Make the space and time for weekly family chats: Annie shares how to dive into the same themes you touched on when they were little… but with a bit more depth.

I hope you’ll consider adding Soul to Soul Parenting to your night stand. I’m glad the publisher sent me a copy and that Annie Burnside is on mine. I’d love to hear your thoughts about any and all the things Annie and I spoke about… including ways YOU connect on a soul to soul level with your kids.

Share yourself on a soul level with your child today and you might be surprised by what shows up; a child that’s been sharing themselves on a soul level with you all along.

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Expert Mommy: Secrets Girls Keep

Carrie Silver-Stock is a licensed clinical social worker. Her new book, Secrets Girls Keep addresses the fact that too many teen girls are trapped by their secrets. So much so that girls hide their depression, eating disorders, pregnancies, and sexual relationships.

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LIVE Interview with bestselling author, speaker, thought-leader, Sarah Susanka

Yes, I said “home” not “house” because as I have come to find out myself, your outer spaces are very much a reflection of your inner spaces. What does that mean for us busy moms who are going a mile a minute? Whose inner lives and outer lives are often both noisy and chaotic? (Have you seen the inside of my car lately???)

We invite you to watch the INTERVIEW with bestselling author, Sarah Susanka below. Susanka tells us that bigger and more is not necessarily better… bigger houses, more stuff and more activities don’t equate to more happiness and fulfillment.

Have you experienced this? I know I have. Where are you in your life? Do you feel like your life is bulging at the seams? Are you feeling compelled to do some renovating?

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Zen Mommy Minute: How Do You Feel Love

How do you feel love?

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Quality Time
  3. Receiving Gifts
  4. Acts of Service
  5. Physical Touch

Once we know a little bit about the five main love languages that exist, we can have a deeper understanding of not only how WE feel love… but how we can best love our spouce/partner and our children. [Read more…]

How to Hug a Porcupine

porcupine-croppedNext month our oldest daughter turns nine years old and we officially enter the tween zone. So after ten glorious days of family vacation and 30 hours in the car, I just finished my fifth book on the matter. Each book offered many ways I can expect my darling daughter to transform and how I might (and might not) want to respond. After flipping, skimming, laughing, furrowing my brow and talking back to the books, I have to say through it all I had to remind myself to breathe…frequently.

My main take-aways after all that reading?

#1 to prepare for and support my child in seeking independence and a feeling of being “different” from my husband and I. (It’s a tweens job…knowing this, I can embrace it, not fight it)… and

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