My husband and I have officially “survived” the first two months of parenting twins without going insane or hurting one another. That may sound harsh but if you’ve parented a newborn (or two) you know it’s generally not the easiest thing on one’s marriage. For real. I’m thinking back to our first two children and know for a fact that the hardest hit I felt to my overall sanity and my relationship to my hubby was following the birth of our first. If you’ve just had your first baby and are wondering if you may be heading to divorce court, hang in there!!! I promise things get better… and soon.
By about ten weeks post having a baby sleep deprivation has generally set in. And I don’t know about you and your hubby, but neither one of us are at our best when we’re exhausted. We’re both just all around more needy and less tolerant. Happily, we’ve been down this road before and can see the light (namely 5+ hours of blissful-solid-uninterrupted- sleep) at the end of the tunnel. Every night I go to bed I pray I will see the light. The waiting is a bit easier this time around though because I know what to expect… and I know it WILL come (one of these nights anyway).
But I have to say, I think it is a divine plan than just when we are feeling COMPLETELY exhausted from now months of sleepless nights, our little babies begin to smile. And I’m not talking about those cute sleepy smiles they do when just days old. Nor am I talking about the smiles a newborn gives when they are merely doing their duty. You know what I’m talking about! Admit it. As new parents we all want to believe those are genuine smiles but in our heart of hearts we know… they’re just passing gas.
No. I am talking about the hold the phone – cute school – melt your heart – ear to ear smiles one gets from their baby somewhere in the late second or early third month of their child’s life. Well my friend, we are here. Yesterday I caught my ‘lil guy flashing his award winning smile to me, complete with the cutest cueing sounds you’d ever want to hear. If your little one isn’t quite there yet, enjoy this peek into your near future and take heart. He or she will be melting away any memory you may have of those sleepless nights with a winning grin soon enough. Have your camera ready when he or she does. The moment is PRICELESS.