Let’s Build Each Other Up















What was the best thing anybody said to you after you had your first baby?

Say that to new moms you know.

What was the best thing anybody did for you? Was it a friend that came over to scrub your toilets instead of coming over to hold your cute new baby? A meal dropped by without a visit attached? A card? A kind word when you nursed in public even though it was new and still uncomfortable for you?

Do that.

Was there ever a mom that listened to you complain without trying to solve your problem or make it bad or *wrong*?

Listen this way to other mothers.

Was there ever a mom that told you early on (when you thought you could do nothing right) “YOU’VE SO TOTALLY GOT THIS”?

Say this to other mothers.

Was there ever another mother that told you “Perfect is overrated” and “Don’t worry, when it comes to babies, there is no such thing as NORMAL”?

Remind other mother of this too.

Today, if you see another mother out and about, be kind. Smile at her even though you do not know her. Be for her what another mother was (or could have been) for you in those first few fragile days, weeks, months… years.

We are more connected than we are separate. Make a difference for another mother TODAY.

“We can do no great things; only small things with great love.”

– Mother Teresa






By Suzanne Tucker, co-creator of My Mommy Manual.com. Join her and other moms on this journey called motherhood, because life’s better when we hold hands.


  1. Very nice post. Yes, we mothers are much more connected than we think. Thanks for the reminder to reach out to younger, new mothers who are so unsure of everything as we once were and remind them that they’re doing okay. It’s something that always made me feel good when I heard it.

    Zen Mommy Reply:

    Thank you Joanie for so *getting* the place from where this message came and for commenting! xo Suzanne

  2. I love this post. It’s something that needs to be said to every new mom, and said more often in general. We moms so often doubt ourselves, but we know our children, our babies, better than anyone else. Thank you for sharing this.

    And just to let you know, I’m stealing the line: “YOU’VE SO TOTALLY GOT THIS!” and passing it along every chance I get.

    Zen Mommy Reply:

    Julia, So happy you found a phrase to take with you. it’s YOURS!!!

  3. Grab time to claim as yours because you should not go too long without hearing your own voice – not muffled by the cacaphony around you. Thanks for encouraging us Suzanne.

  4. Tara Gaska says:

    Thank you! I just had my first precious little boy in November 2011. I have finally realized that keeping my apartment meticulously clean like I had it prior to giving birth to my son is not crucial in being the best mom I can be! I had many lovely visitors after my son was born, however, secretly I wished a friend or family member would have helped me to tidy up a bit rather than my sleep deprived body staying up til all hours of the night to make sure that my apartment was up to my crazy standards.

    Zen Mommy Reply:

    Congrats Tara! What a fabulous realization you share here. I still feel the pressure towards “perfect” – unsettled with clutter all around… but just saying it aloud helps me get a grip and to remember what really matters. Thank you for adding your voice to this place so that others might “remember” as well. xo hugs