As I packed for our journey to the north country (i.e., Wisconsin), I had some time to reflect. Thanks to the collective consciousness also known as Twitter, I was led to ponder a few things, specifically. via @LewisHowes Question: Should we ever feel satisfied in life, or does this just stop our hunger to strive for bigger things?
I had just been journaling about a similar/related subject. In fact, my post on patience dances around the same idea… the constant striving or hungering for the next project/achievement… the next “big fish,” so to speak.
For me, it’s the tension between that impatience for the next step and the inherent “judgment” that comes with it. If we are looking over the fence and saying that the grass is greener on the other side, are we not judging the grass we are currently standing in as “not so green” by comparison? By saying, I can’t wait to get there, are we not missing what is here, right now? Or as Lewis’ question implies, does satisfaction lull us into complacency and make it more challenging to journey beyond our own yard.
Let’s get tangible. My uncle likes to remind me that years ago, when he got divorced, I kept telling him, “Enjoy being single when you are single. Enjoy being married when you are married.” Really? I said that??? The grass is greener is an easy and common trap for us humans, huh? C’mon, how many of you married mamas are watching your single friends (i.e., ME) and saying, “She’s totally got the life… all that freedom!” Or conversely, how many times do I see single moms and single people in general (and occasionally, me) watching married friends and saying, “It would be nice to be… there.” Oh wait, I was there… and looking here. Sheesh!
The conclusion I came to… as scribbled in my journal is that feeling (whatever it is) hunger and/or satisfaction — is a state of mind. You can choose to see the green, regardless of what side of the fence you are on. You can choose to water your own grass!
I loved this answer best… via @Finikiotis “That we accept at last that our home is our journey, and our journey is our home,” said James Hollis
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