How to Mend a Broken Heart

“What’s ‘unrequited love’ mean?”  That’s the opening line from my son when I picked him up from school earlier today.

As any experienced parent knows, this is the type of question that doesn’t deserve an immediate answer.  It deserves another question. So I say, “Why do you ask?”

“Well, this girl at school said that she had ‘unrequited love’ for me.  I don’t know what she’s talking about.”

It sounds to me as if this girl may not only be more mature than my son but she also has a better vocabulary.

I start thinking about how to best answer his question and my mind veers onto the nostalgia road where I recall a few personal “unrequited love” stories from my tween/teen years.

  • There was that time I spent an entire day at a country fair trailing after a boy while watching him win a bevy of carnival booty. It wasn’t until he unloaded my arms and thanked me for carrying the stuff that I realized it wasn’t for me! After downing a chili dog, cotton candy and a large diet soda, I accepted that he didn’t feel the same way about me and I moved on. I stayed positive and focused on the possibility that someone, one day, might want to give me something just as cute but even more valuable than a huge plush frog.
  • In high school I’d worked up the nerve to introduce myself to a guy whom I’d admired from a distance. His reply, “Please call me William; Bill is so pedestrian.” I was quickly reminded that just because someone looks good doesn’t mean that he is good – at least not for me. I’m sure there was someone out there who’d be happy to call him William and live with him happily-ever-after.

Enough time had passed by that my son probably thought I was having what he calls a “brain fart”; I finally gave an answer:

“Unrequited love is when someone you like doesn’t like you back in the same way. It’s when one person feels more strongly about another person.”

“Oh.  You mean she might like me?”

And with that question I saw the difference between boys and girls shining brightly in my car. Some guys just take a while to catch on. Is it unrequited love or unknown love? It’s hard to tell the difference unless you’re willing to risk finding out.

A Valentine’s Day Flip Side

Getting Over Him in 8 Songs Or Less is an animated, adult story about a losing love and finding yourself.  Directed, co-produced and animated by Debra Solomon, this multi-talented lady also wrote the eight songs, sings them and narrates the show! Anyone who’s had a failed love will relate and Debra will leave you with a smile and song that helps you move along. For a peek click here: Getting Over Him in 8 Songs or Less HBO-2 on Sunday, February 14 at 6:30 p.m. CST.  (No paid-promo here…I’m just telling all my friends who like to see things created by amazingly talented women to be sure to watch!)

by Expert Mommy, Diane Asyre


  1. Wonderful article Diane, it reminds me of similiar stories of my own experience. I think the neatest part of this article is that he had the courage to ask, what it was, …and to ask you His MOM.

  2. This is great Diane! I will pass this along to friends who are currently feeling a lot of “unrequited love” and will certainly plan to tune into HBO.

  3. Lucy – I hadn’t thought of that! I’m feelin’ pretty good right now knowing that my kid talked to ME. Thanks!

    Maggie – I’m also looking forward to watching Debra Solomon’s show on Valentine’s Day. A fresh take on the holiday is appealing to me…I say we go with the thought that we are “romantic realists”; what do you say?

  4. Man did I have it bad all 7th and 8th grade for a boy named Josh. My nest friend Laura and I both did actually making it even more interesting! Alas… Unrequited for us both. I can’t wait to be having these sort of love talks with my daughters. Won’t be long now with my eldest now in the tween zone. Thanks for sharing this adorable story Diane.

  5. Wish I had HBO, sort of. Happy, VDay, Diane! Thanks for sharing this story. You are such a great writer. And no worries, I’ll by you a plush frog!