As an aunt to 33 boys and girls, I quickly realized that I was becoming a role model, without meaning to or wanting to become one. That was tough enough, because I had to watch what I said, how I dressed and even how I talked to my sisters/brothers because I didn’t want to undermine their role as parents. Then I became a mom and it really hit home.

I’ll never forget the day I heard my daughter say she didn’t feel like going to church… not a big deal, until you realize that my husband and I would say that and then simply not go. We looked at each other and realized that we were teaching our daughter that church was just something to do when you felt like it. Yikes!

Slowly it occurred to us that so much of what we were doing, just because we felt like it, was teaching our daughter about a way of thinking that we weren’t comfortable with her embracing as a child.

That was so hard to deal with!

And it was so empowering, too!

Quickly we realized that the good stuff was sticking, too. And here is where we’ve chosen to focus.

Focusing on the good stuff is where iTwixie.com chooses to focus, too. When we show off the good, our kids emulate the good. When we sensationalize the bad, our kids will emulate that, too.

What do you show off for your kids? Do you say “I’m fat. I need to diet!” Your daughter will begin to say exactly those words in no time.

Be the change you want to see in the world. Your kids will emulate that change. And change will come.

You go girls!