How to Boost Your Daughter’s Self-Esteem

According to a study by Dove… 62% of teenage girls feel insecure about themselves. 57% of those girls have a mom who criticize their own looks. Yes, our daughters hear and see you when you look in the mirror and scowl at yourself!

These are the issues that are tackled in Session 1 of It’s A Girl Thing, a wonderful new speaker series focused on empowering moms and their pre-teen daughters. Through interactive exercises and role playing, psychotherapist (and one of our Expert Mommies), Shellie Fidell leads the group. In one, she asks mother-daughter pairs to practice positive self-talk. In another, she asks girls to role play common conflict situations and explore ways to better connect and communicate with each other.

One of the questions Shellie asked during this session was, “How many of you want to spend more along time with your moms?” The response was unanimous (and anonymous). Wow! That was just what I needed to hear in order to carve out more dedicated time with my girl.

What are some of the things you do right now to 1) create connection with your daughters? 2) nurture your daughter’s self-esteem/confidence?

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  1. It’s the toughest thing in the world, as a mom, dad or an adult with kids in her or his life, to realize that all the little things that you are saying and doing are actually becoming a “teachable moment,” even though you haven’t planned it.

    As an aunt to 33 boys and girls, I quickly realized that I was becoming a role model, without meaning to or wanting to become one. That was tough enough, because I had to watch what I said, how I dressed and even how I talked to my sisters/brothers because I didn’t want to undermine their role as parents. Then I became a mom and it really hit home.

    I’ll never forget the day I heard my daughter say she didn’t feel like going to church… not a big deal, until you realize that my husband and I would say that and then simply not go. We looked at each other and realized that we were teaching our daughter that church was just something to do when you felt like it. Yikes!

    Slowly it occurred to us that so much of what we were doing, just because we felt like it, was teaching our daughter about a way of thinking that we weren’t comfortable with her embracing as a child.

    That was so hard to deal with!

    And it was so empowering, too!

    Quickly we realized that the good stuff was sticking, too. And here is where we’ve chosen to focus.

    Focusing on the good stuff is where chooses to focus, too. When we show off the good, our kids emulate the good. When we sensationalize the bad, our kids will emulate that, too.

    What do you show off for your kids? Do you say “I’m fat. I need to diet!” Your daughter will begin to say exactly those words in no time.

    Be the change you want to see in the world. Your kids will emulate that change. And change will come.

    You go girls!


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