How to Survive The First Six Weeks With The Newborn – It’s Been a Hard Day’s Hard Night!

How to Organize The Daily Chores – I’ll Get by With a Little Help From my Friends (and Family)
The day my baby and I got home from the hospital I felt so lost and inadequate, mostly because I was still unsuccessfully trying to breastfeed. And somehow get a hold of my life again, the new life with the baby. The house was a mess and so were my husband and I, hardly sleeping or eating.

I was never  a perfectionist about the house chores before. However when the baby came I, as if under spell, I become one.

Fortunately, I had a whole army of volunteers by my side, and this is how we got organized, which is also my advice to you.

  • Have someone sleep over from time to time, if possible, to take over night duty for awhile.
  • Have someone help you with cooking or order out.
  • Have someone help you out with cleaning and laundry.
  • Hire a pediatric nurse (at the beginning) to come every evening to bathe the baby until you are able to. The nurse who was visiting us, also helped me a lot with my efforts to breastfeed and inspected how well I was recovering from the episiotomy.
  • My husband was in charge of supplying groceries after work, and doing the paperwork necessary for registration of our child.

After this list, you’re probably asking your selves: “Well, what the heck was she doing all day and night?!”

Honestly, I was trying to grab my sleep and put my feet on the ground again!

My husband was very brave, surviving this crowd every day. But he realized that for me, the boiling point was near.

How did my 24 hours look like?

I truly and honestly didn’t believe I would ever be able to live a normal life without the help I had. Basically, my 24 hours looked like this:

  • massaging and pumping my breasts in order to stimulate milk production every 2 hours,
  • trying to breastfeed, in between, which would last from half an hour to an hour.
  • preparing the formula after breastfeeding, since it never enabled a whole meal for my baby girl.
  • changing the diapers and putting my bundle of joy back to sleep.
  • hopefully, me taking a nap.

After some time I started feeling trapped and even a bit depressed.

How to keep your sanity – The Best Solution
After the first ten days of such a life, my husband stole me away and took me to a restaurant for lunch while my mother was babysat. It felt like an outing to Hollywood :)!

So if in doubt, follow the recipe:

  • ask for help,
  • survive the crowd  and,
  • get out from the house from time to time!

It worked wonders for our family 🙂 !

by Expert MommyTamara Vlaisavljevic


  1. Tamara,
    I so love this advice. ALL of it. Especially the part about getting out and taking a little time for you, 7 days out from bringing home our twins, I took my two big girls out for a pedi. 🙂 The twins snoozed away and were non the wiser. It felt incredible to have my feet rubbed and to just be out of the house spending time with my daughters and they felt like Queens for the day.

    Awesome advice in this post… and in sharing your experience post birth, showing us how very much it truly DOES take a village. In many ways you are giving all of US moms permission to do what we need to do to take care of US. TY!

  2. You really express how hard it is for moms to find time for themselves or even to be able to justify taking time to do something they enjoy or for their own health and sanity. That is why my mother-in-law and I invented Love Handles. An exercise accessory that attaches to strollers to help moms and dads find time to get a great workout while spending quality time with their babies. With Love Handles you can now move your arms, target your core and full upper-body while getting great cardio. Just a way for moms to not feel guilty leaving their little ones or having to get a babysitter to be able to workout.

  3. I think it is difficult for the first time mothers, actually nothing to worry about. With my first son, everything was sweet, he was sleeping all night long wake up 1-2 times for milk.