We all want the best for our kids. The best foods, toys, sitters, teachers, friends… but are we giving them the best “us” there is? It dawns on me that in this moment, as I multi-task with my kids (sorting the mail and writing to you as they do their homework) I am not. In giving them my divided attention I’m clearly not parenting from my “soul” place; more like my “just-a-minute” place.
***3:55 pm — PAUSE WRITING***
***8:55pm — RESUME WRITING***
I’m so glad I’m writing about this to you today. It’s not that I was being a “bad” parent… just a not very present one. They didn’t notice… But I could feel it. And this is the sort of thing I’d like to be ever more aware of. Am I parenting soul to soul? I certainly hope so. Do I parent from a place less than this? (on a daily basis?) You bet ‘ja.
Amidst the diaper changing, soccer games, grocery shopping and laundry sorting, each of us experience opportunities to share our TRUE selves with our families (or not). A story from our past. A feeling. Our hopes. Our dreams. Our fears. Let’s not wait until life slows down or for when our kids are a little older to do this very important thing.
Children (even babies) understand way more than we give them credit for. On a soul level, while we are trying to remember, they are trying not to forget.
Our guest is Annie Burnside, author of Soul to Soul Parenting: A Guide to Raising a Spiritually Conscious Family (I know, right?!? Great name.) Listen as she walks us through four ways to connect with our kids, no matter their age:
- Unborn: Take moments to connect in silence and/or stillness during your pregnancy with your unborn child. You are sharing the same blood after all — how much more connected can two souls be?
- Newborn: Whisper sweet nothings into their ears: listen to the very sweet way Annie welcomed her children into this world.
- Tot: Look beyond the terrible two’s and share sweet stories together, planting the seeds of forgiveness, empathy, worthiness, self-love and more.
- Young Child to Tween/Teen years: Make the space and time for weekly family chats: Annie shares how to dive into the same themes you touched on when they were little… but with a bit more depth.
I hope you’ll consider adding Soul to Soul Parenting to your night stand. I’m glad the publisher sent me a copy and that Annie Burnside is on mine. I’d love to hear your thoughts about any and all the things Annie and I spoke about… including ways YOU connect on a soul to soul level with your kids.
Share yourself on a soul level with your child today and you might be surprised by what shows up; a child that’s been sharing themselves on a soul level with you all along.
Suzanne Tucker, aka Zen Mommy
Suzanne is the Co-creator of My Mommy Manual and the online parenting course, Yoga Parenting. If you liked something you read here, she hopes you’ll sign up. It’s free and together you can remind each other to look inside. Though Suzanne received a copy of the above book from the publisher, her opinions are her own and she was under no obligation to provide a review.