How Have You Violated the Good Mother Rules?

MONDAY, MAY 18, NOON EST… the ladies of Looking Glass Lane reconvened our online discussion following our talk with Ayelet Waldman’s about her memoir and latest book, Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities, and Occasional Moments of Grace.

lookingglasslaneListen to the RECORDING! Um… yes, the rumors of [a__ slapping] are true! Thank you, @MissIve!

But I guess I shouldn’t be all that surprised considering the color of last week’s conversation! Evidence of “bad mothering” ran rampant, including Morgan’s swollen-belly-with-no-ring and Ayelet’s Dead Baby Club, and “acts of service” that keep marriages alive!!!

Ayelet says, “People bring everything of their own experience, of their own life into [what I write] and they end up responding to their own anxiety rather than to me.” So what are YOU bringing? You can still download the FREE chapter from her book here. You can watch our segment… click more!

If you prefer audio only, click HERE! We have only just begun. This week, @MissIve, @Fleurdeleigh, @RiaSharon, @ModernSingleMom, @ZenMommy are reconvening to go deeper into the discussions we started today. We want you to join us. We’ve collected your comments but… we’re greedy so leave MORE! We can’t engage if you don’t. And we’re engaging, aren’t we?! 🙂

Check out the official launch page of the #badmother brigade, Looking Glass Lane. It’s a place where we will continue to discuss our passions, fearlessly.


  1. Giselle (aka @martine2323) says:

    “The most beautiful thing to try to achieve – a state of not watching yourself but rather just being yourself’ Ayelet Waldman

    What I took from this conversation – To live and love my life by terms that are truly me. I have judged other mothers, and been judged. It is truly refreshing that the group of you have set aside pride, preconceived notions, and barriers to hold an honest, hilarious and brave discussion about motherhood, being a wife and especially about being a woman. I look forward to sharing my thoughts and stories with all of you!


  2. Giselle, thanks for pulling out that quote! I think it’s fascinating and cool that everyone takes away something different from the conversation. That’s what makes CONVERSATIONS so interesting, right?

    I think Ayelet is pretty Zen… although she won’t OWN it, will you????? 🙂

  3. Gosh, if the only violation of the Good Mommy Rules was my “swollen-belly-with-no-ring” I would almost consider myself in the clear now…But, the past 2.5 years of Lucca’s life has definitely awarded me with ample other “violations”–some of which I am quite proud of….like the #BadMother Tattoo on my hiney. Just Kidding!!

    Love this conversation and am really looking forward to next Monday to take it even further…perhaps push the #badmother envelope a little more 😉

  4. OMG, Morgan! What a great idea! We should all get #badmother tats. Oops! I just “should” on myself again!

  5. if just having a tattoo gets one in this tattoo #badmother club then i am in already…tehehehe…not on my bum morgan, but not far!

    looking forward to you all in the chat room sharing…AND to taking this conversation to the next level. how can/do we as women build each other up, supporting each other in our mothering…our wife-ing (is that a word?!…needs to be!…) and in just all around LIVING and following our BLISS?


  1. […] The best part for me is that I’m one degree of separation away from the bold and amazing Ayelet Waldman who contributed to My Mommy Manual when Bad Mother came out.  At least now if I ever met her I’d have something to say other than repeating “oh my god you’re so awesome.  You’re like my mommy hero” as I shook and sweated and repeated myself again and again, which is how I always imagined it would go.  Check out their related articles to Ayelet’s book (one of my favorites!) Bad Mother: A Chronicle of Maternal Crimes, Minor Calamities and Occasional Moments of Grace on how to lay off other moms, moving past judgment, and the Good Mother Rules. […]