How to Go Deep and Find Your SELF

We can travel wide, but that of itself will not fundamentally change us. For our lives to change, we must travel deep.
~ Marianne Williamson

Last week, I wrote about being out of balance. I hear this from so many of my mommy friends, especially those of us who feel conflicted about our careers and families. But how do we regain a sense of equilibrium in a modern world that’s going well over our personal speed limits.

(Insert ironic chuckle here considering the Universe confiscated my car for at least two weeks!)

It seems I’m being called to walk the talk, to teach as I learn, as it were. I still believe that the answers lie within — where our Higher Purpose is reflected in the stillness. Inside, we are most connected to our God. But getting there requires sloughing off layers and layers or crap — literally and figuratively. I haven’t had the fortitude “to go deep” and look at all the demons along the way, to tune out all the noise, to sift through all the baggage that I’ve carried with me to this point.

Dramatic? Okay, it sounds heavy but practically speaking, that means that as the end of 2010 approaches, I’m doing inventory and tossing out everything that no longer serves me —  in my house, in my body, and in my heart. As I told my kids this weekend, “It’s time to make room for all the new gifts you’ll be getting soon.”

Me too.

As Kelli so eloquently put it, “I think that God blesses us with gifts and talents that can and should be used to His glory.” So as they tackle the playroom. I’m attacking the pantry. Who’s with me?!

What do I expect to gain by cleaning out the crusty pantry of my soul? I want to walk with God! Marianne says:

A closer walk with God means narrowing the gap between our thoughts and God’s thoughts. How many times have we done things we came to later regret, for no other reason than that at that particular moment we were not in touch with our higher selves? We were allowing a fear-based imposter self to pose as who we are, while our essential, loving self lay buried and bereft beneath the illusions of our unsatisfied lives.

Today is November 1, Dia de los Muertos in some cultures, an auspicious day to begin. Begin what?

1) Daily Meditation/Prayer
Resurrecting the 30 Day Challenge: 30 minutes of silence every day for 30 days.

2) Real Food
– Vegetarian, organic, minimally processed fare for 30 days.
– Five day cleanse/fast

3) Fall Cleaning
– Beginning with the insides… beware all closets and cabinets!!!

I know you’re all saying, “Yay! Where do I sign up? There’s comfort in numbers, friends! C’mon, we can do it!”

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  1. Wow! You rock…for reals. Very encouraging to read. I’m doing a bit of soul purging myself these days. And I have you and a few other lovely ladies to thank for it. It’s very invigorating!

  2. I’m joining in on the great closet clean-out… and as ever excited to see what it does to my soul………… GOAL: two bags of “stuff” out-the-house per week through November.

  3. We purged 3 bags of books and toys over the weekend! And that was just from 1 room.

    So glad we have a posse to do this with! It’s a lot more fun for one but now it means I actually have to do it! Ha!

    For you lovelies who are embarking on the cleanse with us, FYI, we are supplementing with a kit (DietStart Cleanse) per doc’s recommendation.