‘Tis the season for back to school. This is our first year at kindergarten and we are all so excited. We have our school supplies, new clothes, new backpack, and new lunch bag. Like many moms, I’m just as giddy as BigBoy and determined not to cry on the first day. I still need to enter in the school calendar in my Outlook, but I’ll get to it after I drop him off. BigBoy’s soccer also starts next week and I need to enter those dates into my calendar too (practice on Thursday and games on Saturday). Husband has soccer games on Tuesday nights and Sunday mornings. I have Jazzercise on Wednesday nights and Saturday mornings. Like many families, we are scheduled to the hilt.
My biggest concern is that as a family we get so scheduled, that Husband and I don’t make time for us. Since I am the social calendar keeper, I’m literally going to schedule in date nights and make sure that we have at least two per month.
I’ve written about the sex formula and as ridiculous as it sounds, I’ve discovered the need to plan and set expectations for nights devoted to our intimacy. We don’t always follow the formula, but when we do it is great. When we don’t, well let’s just say it’s a slippery slope (and not in a good way).
I know you’re probably reading this thinking, “this woman is a control freak.” That may be true, I’m willing to admit on some level I am (In my defense: I’m not as bad as others). However, my husband works a lot, he works 8:00 to 5:00, and after the kids are in bed he typically gets back on his computer and works some more. I’m wrapped up in my work, the kids, and my/our social life. There is always something going on. If I don’t pay attention to my marriage (in the form of scheduling date night as one example – not the only example) then a whole month has gone by and we may have had sex once on a fluke.
I want a rich and robust marriage. I want to be sure to have time to talk about our family, work and then some. I want to enjoy my husband and laugh with him. Mainly, some uninterrupted time would be nice. Well, if I have to schedule it, then so be it. I just know that if I don’t, most likely it won’t happen.
Am I the only freak out there that schedules date night and time alone with her partner? Please write in and let me know that I’m not the only one.
Cheers on back to school and finding quality time with our partners amidst the busy schedule!
by Expert Mommy, Jen Hibbits