How to be a Witness/How to be a Friend

Love. Think. Speak. Know. Creatures, I give you yourselves!

~ C.S. Lewis (Aslan in The Magician’s Nephew)

We’ve been listening the audio cassettes (that’s right) of The Chronicles of Narnia and I was so moved by this scene in which Aslan sings Narnia and all its creatures into being. Afterwards, he stands back and he commands them, “Love. Think. Speak. Know.”

It comes as no surprise that Suzanne’s mantra for 2011 is LISTEN because for almost as long as we have been BFFs, we’ve led parallel lives or even better, complimentary ones. The word that came up for me on this turning of the calendar was WITNESS.

What does this mean? For me, it means being a friend. It means holding the image and space of your best self so you can fill it. It means being a “safe pocket” for you in times of vulnerability. It means earning the right to hear your stories. I have grown into this word of witness/friend only by having received the same gift so fully in 2010. Suzanne, of course, is my Master Friend — the person who taught me that it is safe to “hold my seat” in a relationship even though it is painful sometimes. And I learned that this messiness is a small price to pay for the prize of true connection — especially with your Self.

So in 2011, this is a gift that I can now give. My internal GPS has been set to give you back to your Self. I got my marching orders. They begin with “Love….”


  1. “witness”

    that word is the reason I went to social work school, and one of the driving forces behind LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER.

    Wonderful choice.

  2. Suzanne Tucker says:

    Something (or someone) just tapped me on the shoulder and whispered to my heart “go see if Ria has her post up tonight…” and sure enough there it was. A love letter to all of us from you, my friend. (This listening to the universe for it’s whispers has some major perks. *wink*)

    Love. Trust. Friendship. Ria. 🙂 Thank you for your friendship and the gift of you as witness.

  3. i love this…


  4. Liz McClain says:

    What a beautiful way to start the morning…the year. Those few words are poignant! Thanks-Liz

  5. Thank you, loves for your heartfelt comments. I’m honored to be sharing this space with you. And so full of hope and excitement for 2011!


  6. This is really sweet, I believe that friendship is to share love and helping each other. That’s what I am teaching my kids.

  7. Arlene Maminta Browne says:

    Lovely in every way. Thank you beautiful friend for sharing your inspirational sentiments.

  8. Arlene, thank you for allowing me to live it! 😉

  9. Next Monday, I will try to fix some broken relationships, I hope I will succeed at least with one. In both cases it was not my fault and in one there was not fault of anybody.


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