23 Weeks: It’s A Boy!!!!

I told you I couldn’t keep a secret. I all but gave it away on TV yesterday so I got permission from the hubs to tell you Skittles is a boy. A very active little boy who feels like he’s already practicing soccer and basketball every two to three hours. After all, his dad played every sport in school!

Here’s Skittles at 21 weeks

I know I’m just a delusional mom-to-be but don’t you think he has Jason’s cheek bones and nose?

Last night, he started something new. He is now pinching my nerves in my back.  At least, I assume he has something to do with the sharp pain in my back. And I will assume he got that from my husband, too.

I have a wonderful, caring husband but I discovered this week that he has a lot to learn when it comes to dealing with a hormonal weepy pregnant wife.

DON’T ARGUE WITH A CRYING PREGNANT WOMAN.

I’ve been pretty sane for the last five months or so, but man, on Tuesday I was a mess. I had this big, bad ball of a cry swelling in my chest all morning.  EVERYTHING was upsetting me. I almost threw up during the morning show and by the time I made it to the Great Day set for a pregnancy segment I had to warn the host Carol that I was about three minutes away from being a huge bawling mess and it may happen on air. Carol was great, she said I could cry all I wanted since the segment was on pregnant women.  I didn’t. I got through it. I actually made it until my husband got home and then it just all came out. You know the kind of cry that makes no sense because the between the heaving and sniffles you are just spewing out random non sense?

That was the cry. And of course Jason can’t solve any of those “problems” because they sounded so irrational to him so he got frustrated. He tried to calm me down by asking me why I was worried about things that weren’t a problem and eventually just walked out of the room when I stopped talking.  Hello! That doesn’t mean I’m finished sulking..I was just taking a break!

Later, I told him the next time I act like that, don’t try to reason with me. Just tell me I’m right and that I look beautiful (feeling fat was on my whine list) even if it’s a total lie. He said he would.  Low and behold.  I’ve been fine since. At least until the next wave of hormones comes over me.

The lesson I learned…now that I am sane for the time being…is to try and be proactive instead of reactive. I have to sort through all the worries and annoyances while they aren’t bothering me so I can make rational solutions to them now and then remember them during my next rage. And I can’t blow them off.  For instance, I was mad at Gold’s Gym for double charging my account.  So I will continue to call them until the money is refunded but I’m promising only to call them on the days I am not hormonal.  I will say this, pregnancy makes you assertive! I’m usually non confrontational to a fault but now I won’t let anyone get away with crap. As for the feeling fat thing, I am making myself start an exercise routine.  That will make me feel proactive and should reduce the stress. Plus, I think Skittles likes it. I can feel him getting all excited when I’m out playing with the dog. Oh! and he likes Harry Connick Jr. Skittles was dancing up a storm at the concert the other night! At least he got MY taste in music 😉

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Virginia Kerr is a morning news anchor on New 4. You can watch her Monday – Friday from 5AM to 7AM.

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Comments

  1. OMG! You are sooo funny! I can’t believe you spilled the beans… or, the Skittles as the case may be.

    And re: hormones! Don’t worry, you’ll have the reverse effect as well. There will also be time when you are euphoric for no reason either!!! Those are the ones we want to bottle up and take a swig of later.

    Congrats! And I think @ZenMommy (who is also a licensed P.T. BTW) may have some relief for the back pain.

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  2. Zen Mommy says:

    Virginia,
    Skittles is a little Jason for sure. The picture you posted is identical to your little man. That is so awesome and I know has to make you grin ear to ear.

    OMG, on the hormones, I soooo had my hubby trained by this pregnancy. A good thing as with twins I was seriously doubly mood-challenged at times. SUPER easy to cry… but also felt love at a deeper level. (say goodbye to listening to country music for a while unless you have a big box of tissue.)

    Might I add here how gorgeous you are and not to worry about the weight gain at ALL. You will be amazed how much is water weight and will fall right off after baby is born, especially if you are nursing. Our culture doesn’t teach us to embrace how gorgeous we are with our growing big beautiful bellies (and all the other big beautiful areas that tend to grow right along with the belly as well!). In some/most cultures we would be WORSHIPED for the gorgeous-goddess-ness that is taking over your body right now. Do your best to love yourself as gently as you would a best girlfriend (or a daughter!).

    on the back, nerve pain thing, come by some time and visit the twins and i and i’ll check out your back/pelvic alignment and maybe give you a couple stretches/moves that will help keep you feel good through pregnancy. i just wrote an exercise guide for pregnancy for Viewpoints.com and will let you know when it is live. Hang in there!!! not easy getting up and on TV everyday during ones pregnancy so just know you are ROCKING IT!!!

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  3. Carrie Edelstein says:

    Embrace the belly… this is likely the only time in your life a certified MD will tell you to go ahead and gain. The bump is the latest accessory at News 4! Look back at pictures from decades ago. Maternity clothes were made to hide bumps away like it was a shameful thing. Now women flaunt them with pride. You must gain weight for the health of the baby. Protein=IQ points! Just don’t eat the entire refrigerator… well just don’t do it everyday! And don’t overdo it exercising. You’re not supposed to lose weight or anything. If your baby likes to dance, take him for a swim! I’ve never gotten in the pool so much, and last weekend at Shaw, I was happy to be the largest, but not the fattest woman there!

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  4. Hey, cutie! Carrie, I get to see YOUR pregnant belly next week!!! Thanks for stopping by and I can’t wait to hear how your pregnant summer is going.

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