21 Weeks: Flu Bug

flu bugThis has been a long week. It started off well last Thursday with a trip to the doctor and our 20 week ultrasound which showed two active, healthy babies growing inside me. 3-D ultrasound rocks. They are 10 inches long and 14 oz’s each and from what I read, they can hear and recognize my voice. So amazing.¬† Given the week I’ve had, I’m wondering if they can also recognize my cough

I got home from my doctor’s appointment and have been sick with the flu ever since. Nobody likes to be sick, but pregnant and sick? This is not for the faint of heart. Instead of complaining (and coughing and complaining… which feels like all I’ve been able to do lately) I thought I’d write to you this week about the things I’ve learned whilst being sick and pregnant. Hopefully these will NOT come in handy… but lest you or someone you know/love does get sick while pregnancy, maybe they will.

  1. Tell your husband the moment you do not feel well that his darling wife is about to be kidnapped. In her place he will soon find a needy, whiny… some might say demanding shell of her former self. Or at least that’s what I wish someone had told my husband. Days stuck in bed with few comfortable options for breathing much less sleeping can make a girl feel a little helpless. I kept thinking, “This is good practice for how helpless and needy I’ll most likely feel when the twins are born.” A dry run you could call it. For a few days I couldn’t even get myself hot tea when I wanted it. It seemed like all I had were request after request for my hubby. He’d arrive with my tea and I’d realize tomorrow was gym day. Where WERE the kids gym shorts? Could he track them down? Could he water the dying plants? Could he do this? Could he do that?Had I been able to muster a more pleasant and appreciative tone, maybe I’d feel better about all the asking, but I’m being honest when I say, I wasn’t able to do this. I didn’t do this. In fact, at one point when he asked for a break from all the “running” I actually broke down and cried. Yes, threatening with the ‘ole “Fine, I’ll do it myself then” like any good five year old would DID get him back on his feet again, but jeeez. The poor guy. Given my mood all weekend, going to work on Monday must have come as a relief! ūüôā¬† So my advice? If your pregnant and think you might be getting sick coming, just go ahead and apologize to your hubby ahead of time.
  2. Heavy coughing and weak bladders do not mix.And because you are pregnant and need to stay hydrated, there’s 100+ ounces of hot tea and fluids in your future. You get the picture. My solution? Get as comfie as you can as close to a bathroom as you can. That, and invest in a box of panty liners. Need I say more?
  3. Don’t get sick in the first place. Easier said then done? Maybe, but I would be remiss if I didn’t address this here ’cause I am left wondering if there were things I could have done to prevent getting this flu bug in the first place. Though I have been getting enough sleep and drinking hefty amounts of water, I resisted getting a flu shot until last Thursday. Yes, this is the day I got sick. This leaves me feeling two ways. On the one hand I wish I’d gotten the shot a month ago as my doctors all tell me this is a coincidence and as the shot takes two weeks to become active, had I done this earlier in my pregnancy my symptoms would be less serve. On the other hand I blame the shot. I wish I’d never gotten the darn thing. I know, crazy… earlier or never. I’m truly torn.

OK ya’ll. That’s all this sick-and-doing-my-best-not-to-gripe (and happily 21 weeks pregnant) mama has this week. Many smarter, more educated folks with lots more letters behind their names have written on the topic of pregnancy and health, and so you don’t feel let down ’cause I didn’t mention the standard basic tips like hand washing and eating your veggies, I’m linking you to a few articles I liked here and here and here. BE WELL! and I promise when you come back next week, we’ll have alot more fun stuff to talk about. *wink*

In the mean time, if you have a “stay healthy” tip (pregnant or not), please post it below. If you are a mother of a newborn, does all this flu talk freak you out? Have you put yourself on house arrest?!?! I hate to say it, but given how I’m feeling… that’s not a bad idea.

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Suzanne Tucker, aka Zen Mommy
In addition to mommying to two magical girls born in 2000 and 2003 and expecting twins in Jan of 2010, Suzanne co-owns a holistic health center with her husband Shawn in St. Louis, Missouri  where she practices as a physical therapist, Certified Infant Massage Instructor and health education teacher. Certified in a number of healing and life education approaches, Suzanne is a Co-creator of My Mommy Manual and the online parenting course, Yogi Parenting, a positive parenting approach for raising kids of all ages.


  1. top of my list = hot tea, hot bath (yes, wearing shower hug) and my bed. i’m also taking my prenatals religiously and added this herbal immune booster to the mix after getting sick. wish i’d been doing before. i read Vitamin D and omega 3 fatty acids are important in fending flu off. any other tips?… along side handwashing of course…

  2. meryl333 on Twitter says:

    Neurologist Dr. Blaylock interview http://bit.ly/S4jAR will give you some information to ponder that is not being fed by the pharmaceutical industry. Even simpler, check out this startling TV interview on Fox with Dr. who is a Contagious Disease Expert. Dr. surprises the interviewer by telling him he would not get the shot and wouldn’t give his kids one. Flu isn’t pleasant, but not worth the risk. http://bit.ly/1tcEUo

  3. Oh you poor thing, feel better soon! I am 8 weeks pregnant and have a 14 yr old daughter at home with the flu now. I am keeping her at arms length, washing my hands and praying I don’t get sick!

  4. good plan jeni and congrats on your pregnancy!!! are you on a prenatal vitamin w/ good omega fatty acids? mine includes theses which i was glad to read as i talked w/ a very “health” educated friend yesterday who told me this helps… plus to look into vit d levels with my doctor. many of us are vit d deficient these days (because of sunscreens) and vit d is a good way to prevent ever getting the flu. or so i hear.

    and hand-washing which seems so simple, but really is the best way to prevent flu. i just sprayed Lysol on all our doorknobs yesterday. haha. can you tell i want this bug gone?!?

  5. hot tip on twitter just in from near expert on this matter, film maker Kevin P. Miller that I want to share with ya’ll to help you stay healthy:

    RT @kevinpmiller @ZenMommy Don’t forget the Oscillococcinum, the Homeopathic Flu Medicine: http://www.oscillo.com

    OK Kevin. I’m on it and checking site out now. thanks and *hugs* back at ya.

    Check out Kevin’s film Generation Rx at http://kevinpmiller.blogspot.com/

  6. Hmmm… maybe your regular pace with two in utero is just not going to work!?! I.e., going boating with girl scouts? I don’t know how you do it. I can’t and I’m not pregnant!

  7. suzanne Miller says:

    We’ve been keeping our 5.5 week old under house arrest. At any other time, we may have been a little more lax, but it’s just not worth the risk. This means being firm and setting boundaries about not having young visitors and not bringing the baby to public places. Not always convenient or comfortable but so worth it in the long run.

    Burt’s Bees all natural hand sanitizer is in my purse, and in every room the baby is.

    Homemade chicken soup never hurt, either!

    Learning to turn over the reins of the household to the hubby can be an enriching experience! I found that after 7 weeks of bed rest and afterwards during my recovery from a c-section)

    rest…rest…rest. There is no substitute

  8. My wife was paranoid (or so I thought), preventing any visitors seeing our daughter and to my surprise our bundle of fun was the only one in a toddler group that did not get the dreaded flu. Goes to prove “Mum knows best…”